Self Care Mindset: How to Get on a Healthy Path & Stick to Positive New Habits


Study success and you'll discover that mindset plays a significant role in just about any endeavour - and it's no different when it comes to taking charge of your health and making positive lifestyle changes.

The biggest challenge with maintaining (or developing) a "self care" mindset is first overcoming the limiting belief systems about health that your parents and/or society has raised us with.  False ideals like these:

  • Disease is a mystery;
  • Trust your family Doctor;
  • I need meat for protein to stay strong;
  • Salt causes high blood pressure;
  • Sunshine causes skin cancer;
  • I need supplements because there's no nutrition in food anymore;
  • Don't eat fruit because it contains too much sugar....I could go on and on.

You and you alone have the power to recondition your thinking around your health and it all starts with being very selective with the information that you choose to expose yourself to.

"Health care" today is a huge global industry that thrives on the perpetuation of disease and caring for the sick.

It ultimately cares little for peoples' health because a healthy nation would mean a bankrupt medical/health care system!

When you realise this first, it becomes a 'no-brainer' to commit to learning to be your own doctor and whole food farmacist, so that you can begin taking responsibility for yours and your family's health.

With this in mind, the following are some tips and mental distinctions that can help you develop a self care mindset as you move forward throughout your life.

1. Take a Holistic Approach

Ultimate Self Care is not just about your physical health, it's about your overall wellbeing that encompasses: 

  • Physical
  • Mental
  • Emotional
  • Financial
  • Social

The human experience can be likened to a star that radiates five points.

If one of these is damaged or weakened, the star becomes encumbered and won't fully shine, so it's important to have a balance and recognise that all of these aspects play an important role in your overall presence, state of mind and physical and emotional wellbeing.

Everything is connected.

You may be doing great financially, but if you've paid the price with your physical health, or relationships, or you no longer have a hobby/passion outside of work, there'll come a day when you'll question if it's all worth it.

Likewise, if you have outstanding physical health, but suffer from constant emotional stress or hardship, soon enough that will show itself too.

The point is we need to stay connected to all of the aspects and take steps to ensure we're progressing in all of these areas (no matter how small) throughout our life so that we feel a sense of overall mental, physical and emotional vibrance and self-worth.

2. Deal with "The Cause" of Dis-Ease

You don’t get disease, you cause disease!

The medical world refuses to address cause, incentivised instead to 'suppress symptoms' with invasive drugs and procedures that will likely lead to 'side-effects' and more problems down the road.

The thing to realise is that if 95% of discomfort and dis-ease is caused, then you have the power and ability to un-cause it!

That's what "Self Care" is all about - being self-responsible for making some simple, common-sense lifestyle adjustments, rather than 'handing yourself over' for a quick-fix, band-aid solution.

When you walk away from the "weapons of war" approach, and instead start to embrace the 7 Principles of Health - Air, Water, Sunshine, Walking, Wholefoods, Non-Toxic Relationships & Passion -  everything begins to change and your body begins to heal.

Prevention Better Than Cure.

The old saying that an “ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure” is important to good health. Physical wellbeing is something to be built.

Think of your body as a 'house' requiring strong foundations in order for it to stay upright and keep you safe.

A diet rich in plant-based foods, drinking plenty of water, good sleep, moderate daily exercise and being around positive, uplifting people and environments will all contribute to these strong foundations. 

3. Take Baby Steps & Commit To Today!

So many people live in a disconnected place called, "Someday Isle" ...

“Someday I’ll clean up my diet.”

“Someday I’ll start getting more exercise.”

“Someday I’ll follow my passions.”

If you know you need to make drastic changes but are constantly procrastinating, it's probably because you're mentally challenged by how high the mountain is to climb.

The key is to take one step at a time and don't run before you're able.

Any positive step is a step in the right direction, so commit to making a start with one daily change that you know you can handle. Then, as you begin to feel good about this change and you notice and feel the difference physically and emotionally, take another step.

If you really think about it and you are committed to Self Care, you can in fact quite easily take care of at least 3-4 of the 7 Principles of Health first thing in the morning before you go about your day:

For example...

Air: Step outside in the morning and take a moment to practice deep breathing in the fresh outside, moving air. Keeping a window in your room during the night will also help to keep the fresh air circulating through the room/house;

Water: First thing, when you rise, drink 500ml - 1 litre of water. I like to add a good squeeze of fresh lemon juice and a pinch of nature-made salt;

Sunshine: Watch the sun rise by practising the ancient art of sungazing, or sit in the morning sun for 10-15 minutes and allow the light to enter your face and brain;

Movement: When you rise, go for a 30-45 minute walk, do some yoga or light stretching. Anything to get the body moving will activate your body and senses at this all important time of the day; 

Whole Foods: For breakfast start with a smoothie or a fresh cold pressed juice rather than a heavy meal to ease the weight on your digestive system;

Relationships: Make time to connect with your partner or children or a friend early in the day if you can just to express your appreciation for their presence in your life; 

Passion: Take time each day to 'smell the roses' and spend a moment to reflect on what interests you the most and commit to spending time on this each each week.

The ancients taught that there really is power in the now, so ‘carpe diem’, seize the day and start straight away.

4. Importance Of Your Environment

In so many ways, your environment and circle of influence has a big impact on your physical health and emotional wellbeing. This is why you need to take some control over who and what you expose yourself to on a daily basis - so that you can release those influences that aren't serving you and your self care objectives.

The key is to stack the odds in your favour.

By this I mean, there's no point in aiming to eat healthy if your pantry and kitchen are full of packaged and processed foods. Being committed to your self care means drawing a line in the sand and clearing out all the stuff that's no longer serving you and replacing it with things that will.

The same goes for your living quarters.

Arrange your home in such a way if possible to maximise natural air flow, sunlight and positive energies, while minimising toxic personal care and household chemicals and reducing clutter.

So get those windows open, turn on the ceiling fan, throw out any chemical commercial cleaning products and replace them with natural alternatives.

5. The Power Of Intention & Goals

“Let your intentions create your methods and not the other way round.”

The neuro-muscular movements of “writing,” and then “seeing” what you have written reinforces the “visual part” of your brain. It is a double mantle of reinforcement that creates “intention incubation.”

It's so powerful - you will probably see it in your dreams, so I encourage you to write down your intentions and goals for your health and re-visit what you've written often.  Here are some ideas:

1). Dreaming – identify what you really want in terms of your health and wellness, establish priority values, and eliminate conflict. Be specific and develop a burning desire to achieve your objective;

2). Targets – establish your goals in an order of priority, then write down all details of your objectives. Be specific in your description;

3). Walls – analyse what stands between you and optimal health and what barriers or limiting beliefs are in your way, either physical or mental. Be confident that you have the capabilities to reach your objective;

4). Start dates – When are you going to begin? Specify an initiation date when positive action to attain your objective will begin. Don’t procrastinate once this date is set. If not now, when?

6). Completion – When will you arrive at your goal of no longer being dependant on a certain medication, losing a certain number of pounds, or make a positive career change? Specify a realistic completion timeline and take steps in the direction.

7). Rewards – Picture the results of your Self Care and health goals, then list them. Imagine how you’ll look, act and feel as well as what you’ll be doing and who you'll be with.

Social Support

In the same way as our physical environment influences us, so to do the people in our lives.

To help improve your chances of success it’s important to surround yourself with a ‘community’ of like-minded people who can offer positive encouragement and support when needed.

Join a health-related club or group, go to exercises classes at the gym or become a part of our online Tolman Self Care Community Facebook group.

Stay the Course

So long as you're clear on your intentions, remove yourself from environments and influences that don't serve you, stay positive, take baby steps in the right direction and don't deviate, your success is assured.

Always remember that you are a divine being that nature created, and with a clear 'self care' mindset you can craft the life and health that you deserve.

Tolman Self Care.


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