6 Indisputable Reasons Why Self Care Is Not Selfish


Today "Self Care" is a buzz word, but don't mistake it for being "selfish".

Now, more than ever, it's critical to pay attention to how you take care of yourself, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually - because in doing so you're able to be the best version of yourself, which in turn allows you to show up best for others.

Self Care has many layers.

Yes it's about eating a diet rich in whole foods, but it's also about prioritising movement, cultivating healthy relationships, following your passions and living a purposeful life.

When you put your Self Care first, you have an inner knowing that you're able to serve those close to you, your loved ones and your circles of influence in the most positive way possible.

Here's six key reasons why your Self Care is a gift, not only to yourself, but to those in your close circle and community as well.

1. Self Care Helps You Help Others

Self Care is inherently unselfish because it gives you the time and space to reset and re-energise, so that you can actually give more of yourself.

You can’t give what you don’t have, so giving yourself permission to put your Self Care first, sets you up to be the best person you can be for others.

Without Self Care, you’re more likely to burnout and be ineffective, both in terms of your own potential and in terms of helping those who are important to you.

Whether it be in your business, career or family life, ultimately you end up short changing everyone involved. There’s a reason airlines train you to place your own oxygen mask first in the event of an emergency before helping those around you, because you can’t help anyone at all if you don’t help yourself first. This is a metaphor for everything in life, and you should apply it to everything you do, emergency and otherwise.

2. Self Care Helps You To Grow

Another way that Self Care benefits you and those around you, is that it gives you the opportunity to grow towards being your best self.

Many people believe that eating healthy and exercising is where it stops, but this is just the beginning.

Constant progress, no matter how small, is a vital attribute of Self Care because it allows you to fill your cup emotionally, regularly. 

This type of growth requires you to be mindful about your surroundings so that you're continually surrounding yourself with positive people and inspiration that lifts you up and propels you forward, rather than weighs you down.

The end result?

Constant and never ending benefits in terms of your ability to be more productive, happy, inspired and engaged in projects that matter to you.

3. Self Care Helps You Stay Healthy - Physically

One of the most compelling reasons why Self Care is not selfish is that your physical health depends on it.

Imagine the impact of you suffering from a chronic disease would have on your family and loved ones.

For this reason alone, taking care of your physical health is vital - so that ultimately, you minimise the chance that one day you may burden those you care about most.

It's a well-known fact that a poor diet and lack of exercise are one of the fastest ways to eventually wind up with some type of sickness or chronic disease, so it's crucial that you pay attention to the vital Self Care principles of whole foods and movement.

When it comes to your diet, move towards the 80/20 rule as a minimum, meaning start to incorporate at least 80% plants into your daily eating plan, and as much RAW as you can - fresh fruits, vegetables, seeds, nuts, legumes and whole grains. Drink a minimum of 2 litres of clean water every day.

Experiment with intermittent fasting by shortening your 'eating window' to 8-10 hours within every 24 hour period for at least 4 days a week, to give your digestive system time to reset regularly.  Additionally, consider fasting for a few days or a doing a colon cleanse with every change of seasons, which was an ancient 'house cleaning' wisdom.

On the movement front, as a minimum, take a brisk walk outdoors each day for at least 30 minutes, in the morning if you can.  Step things up by choosing additional types of low impact exercises that resonate with you 3-4 times per week e.g. Cycling, Swimming, Yoga, Pilates, Resistance or Circuit Training.

Tip: if you’re looking for an easy and effective solution for getting more wholefoods into your diet, snack on Pulse Sacred Meal for delicious, any-time raw food that fits into any lifestyle and diet.

Find more tips in 10 Self Care Superfoods for Health & Wellbeing

Need more energy?

Read 5 Daily ‘Musts’ to Boost Your Energy Naturally.

4. Self Care Helps You To Be More Conscious

One of the greatest gifts of embracing Self Care is becoming more conscious about your surroundings and the world around you.

We live in the best and yet the worst of times with so many hidden, harmful agendas that are designed to channel our behaviours - to do things that ultimately aren't the best for us.  Think prescription drugs, think the mass marketing of harmful foods etc.

Self Care causes you to become more connected to the things you're doing and why you're doing them on a daily basis.

By raising your consciousness, you start to notice and gain clarity about what's good and less than good in the world so that ultimately you can think outside the box and make choices that serve you and your loved ones for the better.

Want to get some tips on shifting your consciousness and developing a Self Care mindset?

Check out our blog; Self Care Mindset: How to Get On a Healthy Path & Stick to Positive New Habits

5. It Allows You to Be More Authentic

A by-product of embracing the principles of Self Care consistently, is that it allows you to become your brightest and most authentic self.

Self Care eventually encourages you to lead a more purposeful life - a life that is authentically you - because as you become the best version of yourself, you are naturally drawn to do the things that are in your heart and to be the person you really want to be.

This allows you to tap into your true, authentic gifts that are inside of you so that you not only make a greater difference in your own life, but in the lives of others too.

6. Self Care Alleviates Stress 

When you experience frequent, high levels of stress, there is a ripple effect on those around you and the quality of output you provide to the world.

A moderate amount of stress is actually a good thing, because it's an energetic force that pushes us to create and complete certain outcomes in your life.

It's important however, to be mindful of the level of stress that you're experiencing and whether it's actually having a positive or debilitating impact on your life.

Negative stress wreaks havoc on your physical health and immune system, ultimately making it weaker and making you more susceptible to illness.

Stress is a major cause of inflammation in the body, leads to weight gain, insomnia, ulcers, anxiety and even disease.

Tip: To manage and alleviate stress, one of the most powerful tools that mother earth provides are pure, essential oils. Choose dōTERRA pure essential oils to naturally unwind, balance your mood, shift your focus and relieve anxiety.

By now, you should be sold on Self Care as a lifestyle.

Think of it simply as a way of decluttering your life of all that is toxic.

Gradually releasing all of the things that weighs you down physically, mentally and emotionally and replacing them with proven, time-tested, natural principles and habits that allow you to become the best version of you - for yourself and the world around you.

If you've fallen off the wagon with your Self Care, get back on track by reading our 5 Ways to Simplify Your Self Care Routine.

Tolman Self Care.


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